Don’t they make everything bad?
They are the worst!
They decided to do that!
They never know what they’re talking about!
You may have heard those phrases before. People say those phrases when blaming someone, but not wanting, or not caring, who is really behind the decisions.
I’ve heard those phrases often. In the world of health care, “they” is the evil decision making committee who is out to ruin everything and everyone.
We can’t let this mindset creep into our ministries.
There are two major problems with blaming “them”.
1. It absolves me from the responsibility of truly getting to the bottom of an issue.
When things go a way that I don’t like, I can easily and publicly throw the blame on “them”, and go about my business. Instead, I should think about if it’s really my business. If I believe it is, I should go to the person directly responsible and politely and unassumingly ask. All the while, keeping my mouth shut.
2. It allows me to gossip under the table.
Blaming “them” allows me to talk about the person who made those decisions. Instead of saying, “I don’t like the new curriculum that Pedro chose”. I say, “I don’t like the curriculum they chose”. See the difference?
This mindset can ruin a ministry from the inside out. We can guard against this mindset by accepting responsibility, holding others accountable, speaking directly to someone when we have a question, and keeping our tongues inside of their cages (our teeth)!
How do you guard against the “them” attitude?